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Are You Trading In Your Dreams?
Sometimes a single line in a song can stop you in your tracks.
Recently I was listening to my favourite band Atomic Tom and a lyric from their song Tidal Wave caught my attention, a song and lyric I had heard a thousand times before seemed to just jump out at me like never before…
“Are you trading in your dreams for something that became enough?”
That line lingered with me long after the music stopped.
Because if we’re honest with ourselves, many of us reach a point in life where we quietly start doing exactly that.
Settling rarely happens all at once. It’s not usually a dramatic decision where we consciously choose a smaller life. Instead, it happens slowly, almost unnoticed.
We adjust our expectations.
We tell ourselves this is fine.
We say it’s good enough.
We convince ourselves that wanting more is unrealistic.
Sometimes we settle because we are tired.
Tired of trying, tired of hoping, tired of being disappointed.
Other times we settle because we’re afraid. Afraid of starting again, afraid of the unknown, afraid of losing what feels familiar.
In relationships, settling can look like staying with someone who simply isn’t truly aligned with you.
Perhaps you care about each other, but your values, interests, season in life or the way you express love don’t quite match.
Deep down you sense they aren’t really your person, yet the relationship continues because it feels easier than walking away.
One of the biggest reasons people settle in relationships is the fear of being alone. Loneliness can feel frightening, and the idea of starting over can feel overwhelming. So people stay with someone who is “good enough,” even when their heart quietly knows the connection isn’t the one they truly hoped for.
But a relationship built on fear of being alone is very different from a relationship built on genuine alignment, shared values, and a sense of belonging with the other person.
In careers, settling can look like remaining in a job that drains your energy but pays the bills. You once had dreams of doing something meaningful or exciting, but over time practicality took over and the dream quietly faded into the background.
And in life itself, settling can look like shrinking your dreams to fit the life you have, instead of building a life that fits your dreams.
The problem with settling isn’t that it makes life unbearable. In fact, that’s what makes it so dangerous.
Settling often feels comfortable enough to stay but not inspiring enough to grow.
Over time, “good enough” can slowly shift the entire trajectory of our lives.
Years pass. Opportunities close. The version of ourselves who once dreamed boldly becomes quieter and quieter until one day we barely recognize them at all.
But that lyric asks a powerful question.
Are you trading in your dreams?
Because dreams were never meant to be traded away for comfort or fear.
This doesn’t mean life should be reckless or impulsive. Not every dream unfolds exactly the way we imagined it. But there is a difference between adapting our dreams and abandoning them completely.
Sometimes refusing to settle means making a difficult decision.
Leaving a relationship that no longer nourishes your soul. Taking a risk on a career path that feels more aligned with who you truly are.
Choosing growth over comfort.
It can feel like stepping into uncertainty.
But the alternative, living a life quietly shaped by “good enough” can cost far more in the long run.
The truth is, we all deserve lives that feel meaningful, relationships that feel mutual, and dreams that still feel alive inside us.
So every now and then it’s worth asking yourself the question hidden inside that lyric:
Am I building the life I once dreamed of…
or have I slowly traded those dreams for something that simply became enough?
Food for thought….
love ya
Bek xx
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05/03/26
Once in a lifetime
Some connections in life don’t make logical sense… and yet, they feel more real than anything you can explain.
They don’t need years of history.
They don’t need physical presence.
Sometimes, they don’t even need to have met in person.
It’s an energy. A knowing.
A feeling of “there you are” without ever having to search.
Conversations flow differently.
Silence feels comfortable.
And there’s a depth that can’t be forced or recreated.
It’s rare.
It’s unexplainable.
And it’s something not everyone will experience in a lifetime.
These are the connections that touch your soul, not just your life.
They remind you that distance means nothing when something is real.
That connection isn’t always about proximity… it’s about alignment.
If you’re lucky enough to have someone like this in your life…treasure it.
Protect it.
Respect it.
Honour it for what it is, without trying to define or control it.
Because some bonds aren’t meant to be understood… they’re simply meant to be felt.
The Importance of Time - What are you waiting for?
Lately I’ve been reflecting on the importance of time. Not just waiting, but time itself.
How it shapes us. Stretches us. Reveals things. Forces decisions. Heals wounds. Exposes truth.
I have been in a season of 'waiting' for several reasons.
I am learning that:
There are seasons where time is medicine.
Where nothing needs to be forced.
Where healing quietly happens beneath the surface.
Where clarity slowly rises in its own way.
Where growth is taking place even if you can’t yet see it.
I am also learning...
You can’t rush emotional healing.
You can’t fast-track someone else’s evolution.
You can’t demand answers before they’re ready to exist.
Sometimes time is doing sacred work in the background.
There is a time to plant and a time to uproot. A time to weep and a time to laugh. A time to hold on and a time to let go.
Patience in certain seasons isn’t weakness; it’s obedience to timing we may not fully understand.
Some growth simply cannot be rushed.
Sometimes character is only formed in the in-between.
BUT I’m also learning that time isn’t always meant to be endured indefinitely.
There is a difference between allowing time to do its work…and hiding inside it.
There’s a difference between patience…and postponing a decision you already know you need to make.
There are moments when time becomes a holding pattern.
When you’re no longer healing or growing, you’re hovering.
Waiting for change that has already shown you isn’t coming.
Hoping for clarity that you already quietly have.
Limbo can feel safe...
No final decisions.
No confrontation.
No loss.
But it can also quietly cost you years.
Life doesn’t pause while we hesitate.
We should live with the awareness that time is both gift and limit. We are not promised endless tomorrows. Life is fragile. Finite. Sacred.
Sometimes good things truly are worth waiting for. Other times, the good things don’t arrive, they’re built. Chased. Fought for.
And then there are moments when you don’t actually have time to wait. When postponing your joy becomes more painful than risking change.
I’m beginning to understand that the real skill isn’t learning how to wait.
It’s learning discernment.
Knowing when time is still working in your favour.
Knowing when time has already given you your answer.
Knowing when to sit still.
Knowing when to move.
Knowing when to let go.
Growth can happen in stillness.
But growth can also begin the moment you decide you’ve spent enough time standing still.
There is a time to wait.
A time to act.
A time to fight for what matters.
And a time to release what no longer aligns.
Life is short!
If you are deeply unhappy, ‘time’ alone will not fix that.
If you know what you want (or what you don't want) there may come a moment when waiting is no longer noble, it’s avoidance.
And perhaps wisdom is found in prayerfully asking:
"Is this a season of preparation… or a moment for courage?"
Knowing the difference, that’s where peace lives.
What are you waiting for? Is it time to take action? Or do you need to allow more time for healing, growth or change?
Bek xx
01/03/26
MUSIC IS MY THERAPY
Music really is therapy. For many of us, it’s the safe space we turn to when words fail, when feelings swell, or when we just need to breathe. Personally, music has been a constant companion: there through heartbreak and joy, through long drives and quiet nights, through moments when people weren’t around to listen. It’s always been there.
💜 Music heals, and science proves it.
Researchers have found that listening to music stimulates the release of dopamine, the brain’s “feel-good” chemical, which can make us feel happier and more relaxed.
💜 Studies show it can lower stress hormones like cortisol, slow heart rate, and even improve our immune response. In other words, music doesn’t just feel therapeutic, it is therapeutic.
💜 Music helps us process emotions.
When we’re grieving, anxious, overwhelmed, or even just tired, music can help us make sense of what we’re feeling.
It gives emotion a voice. According to research from the ‘Journal of Music Therapy’ active engagement with music, listening, singing or playing can significantly improve emotional expression and regulation.
💜 For me, music is therapy.
It’s the song that brought calm when anxiety hit. The melody that lifted me on tough days. The lyrics that helped me feel understood when I couldn’t explain myself.
It’s the soundtrack of my life: reassuring, uplifting, reflective, comforting.
Whether you need to feel seen, to release, to celebrate, or to heal, music is a gift we can carry with us anywhere. Let’s not underestimate its power.
Bek xx
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26/02/26
The Grief of Goodbye
Some people stay in your heart long after they leave your life.
In the quiet moments.
In the songs you didn’t expect to hurt.
In the way certain places feel a little different now.
You see and hear reminders of them everywhere.
They leave fingerprints on your soul; in the way you love, the way you see the world, the way you remember what it felt like to be deeply connected to another human being.
And it’s a strange kind of ache…
Because you can move forward, build a new life, even find happiness again, yet a part of you still carries them.
Not because you’re stuck.
Not because you can’t let go.
But because some connections are real, and real things don’t just disappear.
They soften over time.
They change shape.
They become a quiet knowing instead of a loud presence.
And one day, you realise…
they’re no longer a wound,
they’re a memory that helped shape who you are.
Some people aren’t meant to stay in your life forever, no matter how much you love them...But they will always have a place in your heart.
And that doesn’t make you weak...
It makes you human.
Bek xx
Behind The Mask - Unfolding Bek
I’ve felt like I couldn’t be my true self for as long as I can remember.
As a child, I never felt like I belonged or fit in, so I learned to mirror others, morphing myself into someone that other kids might like or relate to. I carried a deep longing to be chosen, to feel good enough, and to belong (as I mentioned in my previous post).
School was hard. I was bullied, and I carried heavy secrets, including being s*xually abused by a family friend’s son for years.
When I tried to tell an adult, I wasn’t believed. I learned early that speaking up wasn’t safe. This lesson was later reinforced in adult relationships, by partners who dismissed or invalidated my feelings. I also learnt that others couldn’t always be trusted with my heart: they either rejected it, walked all over it, or dismissed it when I revealed my true self. I learned to stay quiet, to hide my pain, and to abandon parts of myself.
On top of the abandonment wounds and the deep need to be chosen that I wrote about in my previous post, I also recently discovered that I am, in fact, autistic; something that had never occurred to me, even though all four of my kids and my dad are on the spectrum.
This revelation explains so much about my life: why I often felt different, why I struggled to fit in, and why I was so frequently not chosen or was often abandoned.
I had learned to mask not only as a form of self-protection but also as a way to cope as an autistic girl and woman in a world that wasn’t designed for me. Even now, I wonder if people knew I am autistic, would I be judged because I don’t “look autistic,” or even because I do as that alone can make some people run.
Women often present so differently, which is why autism in girls and women is so often undiagnosed. I will share more about what autism looks like in my world in another post.
There is a mix of relief and sadness in this discovery. Relief that things finally start to make sense, but sadness in realising how many friendships and relationships were lost because of autism I didn’t know I had, and the ways it shaped my life. I also found myself wondering if I can ever be fully loved and accepted as an autistic woman who is still learning who she really is.
Masking in Friendships
In friendships growing up, I often pretended to have similar interests so we would have something in common. I rarely shared my own passions, quirks, or annoyances for fear of judgment or exclusion. Being autistic, I also learned to mirror others’ speech and behavior because social interactions often felt confusing or unsafe.
Despite this, as an adult I discovered that authentic connection was possible even though it didn't happen often. When I met someone who did genuinely share my passions, interests, humour, quirks, or fears, those bonds felt rare, precious, and deeply comforting. I became intensely protective of those relationships (for fear of losing them, there goes that abandonment wound again!).
Masking in Romantic Relationships
In romantic relationships, I learned to hide my feelings when I didn't feel emotionally safe.
Over time, I learnt to abandoned not only my feelings but my needs and quirks as well, suppressing parts of myself to avoid rejection or hurting others. I settled for unhealthy relationships or relationships where we had little in common.
I found myself in relationships where I often felt dismissed, un-prioritised or unseen. I gave, I tried to prove my worth, and I sought love, but my self-abandonment and autism meant I rarely brought my full self to the connection.
When I love, I love deeply and this can be overwhelming for some. It was rarely something I felt safe to truly express.
Because I wasn’t fully visible (partly due to past trauma and partly due to Autistic masking), I could never experience the deep love and acceptance I longed for. Catch 22. This makes me so sad.
Beginning to Unmask
Masking gave me a kind of fake confidence, but deep down, I carried anxiety and a constant sense of unease. Panic attacks often hit when I felt in danger, even if the threat wasn’t real, or when life felt out of control. Living behind a mask meant I was never truly happy or fully at peace with myself.
My best friend once told me I wore a mask: but at the time, I didn’t really know what that looked like. In a way they really SAW me, just for the fact they saw I wore a mask even when I didn't see it. I learnt to 'smile & wave'. They saw through that smile. They actually knew me better than anyone EVER has, even though there was more to get to know. It’s such a shame our friendship had to end.
Gradually, over the last year or so I have begun to realise that it is okay to be authentically me. I started allowing myself to be seen, speak my truth, and honour my feelings and needs.
I now know the right people will love me and choose me for the real me!
Unfolding Bek: Embracing the Real Me
Unmasking is a journey. I am taking deliberate steps to reconnect with who I truly am:
* I have started checking myself when making decisions to see if I’m acting to meet someone else’s needs, or my own.
* Journaling and reflecting on my feelings and even now sharing my inner world publicly feels like a step in finally being seen authentically with all my faults, weaknesses and quirks. It is scary but I hope that it will give others courage to be themselves.
* Doing things that bring me joy, comfort, or peace, even if others might judge them as silly, childish, or unnecessary.
* Owning my unique traits: my love of pink and sparkly things, my music tastes, my hobbies, and my fears, phobias or quirks.
I will share more about my autistic traits in another post; many of which I didn’t realise were related to autism and which I once tried to hide or suppress.
Through this journey, I hope others can see that masking is common, especially for those who have felt unsafe being themselves. But it is possible to begin unfolding, to let your true self be seen, and to find people and spaces where you are loved and chosen for exactly who you are.
Unmasking is a process of patience, courage, and self-compassion. It’s about giving yourself permission to exist fully, to speak your truth, and to nurture your own needs. It is learning who you really are and not hiding it.
We are all so unique. Life would be boring if we were all the same. Being "different" is okay! In fact, you should celebrate it, as it is what makes you, YOU!
Most importantly, it’s about choosing yourself, for the real you. Because when you do, you create space for authentic connection, joy, and freedom.
Being so publicly vulnerable puts myself out there for judgement, which is terrifying, but I hope it actually raises awareness and understanding around autism in women and how it looks on the outside as well as the inner world of those walking this path.
I hope all this makes sense as I share my thoughts and feelings with the world and try and piece myself together. This is a continual journey we are all on.... right?
Bek
xx
25/02/26
Choosing Me, Finally!
For as long as I can remember, I have wanted to be chosen.
As a child, I never felt accepted. I never felt like I fit in, and I often felt like I wasn’t good enough. I longed to be picked for school plays, invited to birthday parties, or noticed in ways that felt like belonging. I was bullied in both primary and high school for reasons I never understood.
I also carried a deep need to make my dad proud since my teens. I often felt like a disappointment (even though it wasn’t true, he just wasn’t good at verbalising his feelings). These early experiences planted a seed of self-doubt and a longing for validation, teaching me to look to others for approval.
As I grew older, this need for validation developed into self-abandonment. I tolerated unhealthy relationships far too long, accommodated other people’s needs and feelings over my own, and became so dependent on others that I was scared to be fully me or to make my own choices. I gave, I served, I loved, and I tried to prove my worth: but no matter how much I did, it was never enough.
All this rejection and not feeling chosen built what are often called abandonment wounds; deep, lasting feelings of fear, hurt, and unworthiness that form when we experience repeated neglect or emotional unavailability.
These wounds shaped the way I connected with others, leading me to become anxiously attached and drawn to avoidant partners; people who pull away when closeness grows. This anxious-avoidant dynamic became exhausting, leaving me feeling unseen, unheard, and unchosen.
Through this journey, I’ve learned a little about attachment styles:
Anxious people often grew up not feeling consistently accepted or chosen and can become hyper-focused on relationships to feel secure.
Avoidant people often carry past trauma or fears of vulnerability, so they pull away to protect themselves.
Anxious-avoidant dynamics happen when one person’s need for closeness meets another’s need for distance, creating a cycle of longing and withdrawal.
Healing has been a long journey (and is still a work in progress).
Along the way, I’ve realised something important: I am worth fighting for. If someone chooses not to fight for me, it speaks volumes; not about my worth, but it's more about their priorities, capacity, or readiness.
No longer will I try to convince someone to see my value. Nor will I try to convince them to stay.
My energy is reserved for those who choose me as fully as I choose myself.
I have learned that none of this was about my worth. I was never the problem. Choosing myself now means recognising and honoring my own needs, trusting my value, and letting go of patterns that no longer serve me.
Part of this journey is my travel blog, Love Life & Travel. It’s a space where I challenge myself, build confidence, and prove that I can do hard things on my own. It’s also an outlet for my struggles with anxiety and panic attacks, as I work hard to uncover their roots and heal. I share my journey openly in the hope it helps others feel less alone and gives courage to face their own challenges.
Choosing myself looks like:
* Listening to my own needs and prioritising rest, joy, and creative pursuits.
* Saying “no” when something doesn’t feel right, without guilt.
* Letting go of people, situations, or relationships that drain me or continually hurt me. no matter how much I love them.
* Loving and nurturing myself in the ways I longed to be loved.
* Trusting that my worth is inherent, not dependent on approval.
* Enjoying my own company and pursuing passions that push me out of my comfort zone.
If you notice yourself in any of these patterns, know this: it doesn’t mean you’re broken. It means your heart has been learning how to survive and protect itself.
Are you anxiously attached? Avoidant? Or somewhere in between? And what would it look like if, like me, you chose yourself first: your needs, your joy, your peace, without waiting to be chosen by someone else?
For the first time, I am not waiting to be chosen. I am choosing me.
Bek xx
20/02/26
Life In Transition
The past 14 months or so have been a huge year of change, growth and healing for me. A year of transition and feeling in-between seasons. A year of loss, letting go, setting boundaries, starting over and working out what's next?
Perhaps you can relate? Whether it is a change of job, changes in your health, the loss of someone you love (or don't), kids leaving home or having to relocate...these things can cause you to re-evaluate your life and what and who is important to you.
It can also be a chance to find yourself, rediscover your passions, your needs and your dreams. Sometimes we get so devoted to our role at work, as a Mum or Wife and taking care of others, we lose ourselves in the process.
I discovered some huge things about myself (and others) in the past year that were like a light bulb moment and explained SO much! I might share on that in future blogs. Have you ever had one of those moments?
I say all this because I want to encourage you if you are feeling a little lost or overwhelmed that you are NOT alone. Don't give up! Remember, it is always dark before the morning. Think of the struggles as turbulence en-route to your destination.
Things may not go as you expect (that teaches us adaptability and perseverance), or maybe it's not coming together as fast as you want and you need to learn to be patient in the process? (I am guilty of that sometimes!) Often 'time' needs to pass to allow for changes in circumstances, sometimes it is to allow space for healing & growth in yourself or others.
Every season can teach us something if you take time to self-reflect and grow.
Anyway, one of my big changes is pausing my travel agent business to focus on 'Love Life & Travel'. I realized as much as I love travel, I don't want the stress of booking other people's travel anymore! I would rather share my experience and knowledge to help others plan their own trips! I will do this by creating blogs, videos and guides for 'Love Life & Travel'. I enjoy the creative process and working with brands a lot more than selling! I feel such a relief to finally make this decision.
I am excited to see the new things that 2026 will bring. I am hoping for more joy, more peace and more adventures.
What are you hoping for in 2026?
Bek
xx
19/02/26
Joy Doesn’t Have an Age Limit
I thought I would share something I saw today that I could relate to and I hope others out there can too.
The world is crazy out there…and so are our inner worlds sometimes too.
Can we please stop pretending that joy expires at a certain age?
Life is heavy. Responsibilities don’t magically get lighter just because we get older. There are bills, expectations, losses, pressure, burnout. And yet somehow, we’ve been taught that comfort has to look “grown up” to be valid.
What if it doesn’t?
If something soft, nostalgic, or a little bit “childlike” makes your nervous system exhale… that’s not immaturity.
That’s wisdom. That’s self-awareness. That’s choosing gentleness in a world that can feel anything but.
I’m 52 years old and my childhood teddy still sits on my bed. Not hidden. Not packed away in a cupboard. On my bed. I got him when I was 10. He’s travelled the world with me. He’s also absorbed many tears over the years.
I still rewatch things from my childhood because they make me feel safe. Familiar. Calm. There’s something about knowing how the story ends that feels grounding when real life feels uncertain.
And recently, I did something that felt both tender and brave. I took an old Paddington bear pillowcase out of storage, one from my childhood. I used to rub the corners of it for comfort. Back then I didn’t have language for it. Now I understand it was stimming, a way my body regulated itself. Common with ASD.
So I brought it back out.
And you know what? It still soothes me.
There is something deeply powerful about allowing yourself the comfort you once needed, without shame. About not abandoning the parts of you that learned how to cope in the only ways they knew how. (For some it’s a way to cope with past trauma…so please don’t judge).
Growing older doesn’t mean you have to grow harder.
You’re not “too old” for softness.
You’re not ridiculous for loving what you love.
You’re not regressing.
You’re regulating.
If buying the plushie, hugging the pillow, rewatching the movie, or pulling out something nostalgic makes your world feel even 1% safer… let it.
Joy doesn’t have an age limit.
Does anyone else still hold onto something from childhood that brings them comfort? 🩷 You are not alone!
Bek
xx
10/02/26
Celebrating My Birthday in Canada
There’s something undeniably special about celebrating your birthday while travelling. A sense of freedom. Perspective. Magic.
This year, my birthday arrived while I was in Montreal, Canada, on December 28 and it felt like a dream I didn’t know I’d been holding onto for years. Instead of the familiar Australian summer heat, with sweat trickling down my back, I woke to softly falling snow and streets dusted in white. Winter had wrapped the city in its quiet, cinematic beauty.
I spent most of the day wandering through Old Town Montreal (my absolute favourite part of the city, if I’m honest). Cobblestone streets, historic buildings, frosted rooftops: it felt like stepping into a European fairytale.
I enjoyed a delicious birthday lunch at Pangea Restaurant, before heading out for a playful photoshoot around the city… complete with MASSIVE birthday balloons that turned plenty of heads and sparked more than a few smiles.
But beyond the snow and celebration, the day gave me space to reflect.
Looking back on the past year, I felt an overwhelming sense of pride.
I had started and grown my own travel business, completed a Certificate in Digital Marketing (just for fun), and continued my Travel Coach training to complement my travel consulting work.
One of my proudest moments? Travelling solo to Washington D.C. in September to see my favorite band perform, while also filming content for a tourism board and a hotel. All of this while navigating significant personal challenges and ongoing health hurdles.
So yes… GO ME.
This birthday wasn’t just a celebration of another year older. It was a celebration of resilience, courage, growth, and proof that I can do hard things: even when life feels heavy.
Bring on 2026.
I’m ready ✨
02/01/26
Recommended Reading
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The Body Keeps the Score
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The Body Keeps the Score
A world expert presents a sympathetic exploration of the causes of trauma and the new treatments making it possible for sufferers to reclaim their lives
What causes people to continually relive what they most want to forget, and what treatments could help restore them to a life with purpose and joy? Here, Dr Bessel van der Kolk offers a new paradigm for effectively treating traumatic stress.
With stories of his own work and those of specialists around the globe, The Body Keeps the Score sheds new light on the routes away from trauma - which lie in the regulation and syncing of body and mind.
Setting Boundaries
How To Be The Love You Seek
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Dr Rebecca Ray, Australian clinical psychologist and author, shows how boundaries are the key to many of the emotional and practical difficulties we encounter in daily life.
Many of us, raised to be people-pleasers, find ourselves giving in to draining colleagues, friends, partners and relatives.
In Setting Boundaries, Dr Ray shares science-based advice and tools to help you:
- identify your boundaries and when they have been crossed
- recognise the patterns and habits that have failed to support you to feel empowered
- engage in difficult conversations from a place of strength and self-kindness
- set clear, intentional boundaries and become your most loving, fulfilled and authentic self.
Accessible, inspiring and deeply practical, Setting Boundaries ignites us to rethink our relationships, reclaim our lives and protect our mental health and wellbeing.
How To Meet Yourself
How To Be The Love You Seek
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We all fall into conditioned habits and patterns - products of our past - that lead to cycles of stuckness, pain, and self-destruction. But as Dr. Nicole shares, we also have the innate ability to awaken to and change the behaviours that no longer serve us, allowing us to step into the highest versions of ourselves.
By objectively and compassionately observing the physical, mental, and emotional patterns that fill our days and create our current selves, we can more clearly see what we do not wish to carry into the future.
As you work through this book and witness your default habits - from sleep to movement to eating, through emotional reactivity and core beliefs - you will never again have to ask, "But where do I start?"
How to Meet Your Self is a revolutionary guide, a kind and encouraging companion and a comprehensive masterwork of self-understanding that will radically transform your inner work and outer world.
How To Be The Love You Seek
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Why are our closest relationships so often a source of more stress than solace? Whether the relationship is with a romantic partner, a parent, child, friend or colleague, the dynamic is frequently the same - you'd like the relationship to change for the better, yet nothing you try seems to work.
Author of international bestseller
How to Do the Work, Dr Nicole LePera has heard these frustrating patterns of loneliness, disconnection, and resentment described time and again, both from patients in her clinical practice and from her global online community @the.holistic.psychologist. In this groundbreaking book she offers a new path to healing our relationships by tapping into the power of the heart.
How to Be the Love You Seek harnesses the latest scientific research to teach us how to recognise our dysfunctional patterns, identify their roots in our earliest relationships, break painful cycles, build security and share compassion with ourselves and others.
How To Do The Work
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How To Do The Work
As a clinical psychologist, Dr Nicole LePera found herself frustrated by the limitations of traditional psychotherapy. Wanting more for her patients - and for herself - she began a journey to develop a united philosophy of mental, physical and spiritual health that equips people with the tools necessary to heal themselves. After experiencing the life-changing results herself, she began to share what she'd learned with others - and The Holistic Psychologist was born.
Now Dr LePera is ready to share her much-requested protocol with the world. In How to Do the Work, she offers both a manifesto for self-healing and an essential guide to creating a more vibrant, authentic, and joyful life.
Drawing on the latest research from both scientific research and healing modalities, Dr LePera helps us recognise how adverse experiences and trauma in childhood live with us, keeping us stuck engaging in patterns of codependency, emotional immaturity, and trauma bonds.
Difficult People
The Let Them Theory
How To Do The Work
Difficult people take over our lives. They live rent-free in our heads. We steel ourselves before we meet them. We can't relax when we are with them. We ruminate on their behaviour after they've gone. They harvest our empathy and operate without regard for our feelings.
In Difficult People, Dr Rebecca Ray shows us how to recognise (and understand) difficult people and provides us with practical strategies for self-preservation. From learning when to say no, limiting contact and managing our reactions, to knowing when to walk away for good.
With her expertise, insight and guidance, we learn to understand how and when another person's behaviour puts our psychological safety at risk and what steps we can take to restore our boundaries.
Compassionate, honest and authoritative, this is your complete guide to getting your life back from the grip of a difficult relationship, and learning how to avoid them in the future.
The Let Them Theory
The Let Them Theory
The Let Them Theory
What if the key to happiness, success, and love was as simple as two words?
If you've ever felt stuck, overwhelmed, or frustrated with where you are, the problem isn't you. The problem is the power you give to other people. Two simple words-Let Them-will set you free.
Free from the opinions, drama, and judgments of others. Free from the exhausting cycle of trying to manage everything and everyone around you. The Let Them Theory puts the power to create a life you love back in your hands-and this book will show you exactly how to do it.
In her latest groundbreaking book, The Let Them Theory, Mel Robbins-New York Times bestselling author and one of the world's most respected experts on motivation, confidence, and mindset-teaches you how to stop wasting energy on what you can't control and start focusing on what truly matters- YOU. Your happiness. Your goals. Your life.